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16 02, 2018

If Lent were an Olympic Sport…, by Rachel Fisher

2018-02-16T09:30:45-06:00 February 16th, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

The winter Olympics are in full swing, and one of the most notable names on Team USA is snowboarder Chloe Kim. When asked about the pressure placed upon athletes competing in the games, the 17-year-old simply stated, “I don’t really think about it as pressure. Pressure is a byproduct of expectations, and expectations mean that people believe in you.” Only a few days later, Kim would go on to win the gold medal in the snowboard halfpipe, but not before tweeting “Wish I finished my breakfast sandwich but my stubborn self decided not to and now I’m getting hangry.” [...]

16 02, 2018

Facing the Truth

2018-02-16T09:27:06-06:00 February 16th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYERO God,As I pray, images and conversations spin around me regarding murders of people, many children, in a high school in Florida. Parkland is a long way away from here, and it would be nice to think of the incident as a sad story that has very little to do with me. But I know better. John Donne says “Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.” I am a part of a world that is broken, and I have a part [...]

9 02, 2018

Addiction, by Sherry Yingling, MA, LMFT, LPC

2018-02-09T09:11:05-06:00 February 9th, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

“Addiction” is often used to refer to abuse of substances, but it can also include other behaviors such as: gambling, eating, video games, sexual obsessions, working, religiosity, codependency patterns, etc. Some experts define it as, “Anything one does excessively for the purpose of avoiding a thought or emotion.” Addiction is a cycle of use, recovery, and relapse and involves dependence in three key areas: physiological, psychological, and emotional. To break the cycle, all three of these areas must be addressed.  The physiological component of addiction is explained well through a concept often heard in recovery programs: “It is not [...]

9 02, 2018

Getting through the storm… of Addiction

2018-02-09T08:57:44-06:00 February 9th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYER O God, I can’t seem to quit. I want to be different, but I can’t. And the more I seem to fight it, the more it seems to own me. And every time I think I have it beat, it comes back again. I am losing hope, God. Help me. Save me. God, my own bad habits seem big to me, but small compared to the bondage of others I care about. I see families destroyed, lives ruined, bodies broken, minds wasted. Habits, compulsions and addictions are tearing apart our social fabric. Alcohol. Drugs. Pornography. Promiscuity. Eating disorders. Gambling. Spending. [...]

2 02, 2018

Guilt and Shame by Audrey Omenson, M.A., LPC-S Clinical Director NFCC

2018-02-02T09:39:20-06:00 February 2nd, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

Guilt and shame are two incredibly powerful emotions. Often used interchangeably, guilt is specific to regret regarding an action or decision. However, in the words of Brené Brown, shame is “an intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.”  Guilt is about something we’ve done; shame is about who we are. Sometimes, these emotions arise due to an action, decision or belief of our own. Other times, these emotions come up based on the words or actions of those around us. An important practice with these emotions is separating the [...]

2 02, 2018

Getting Through The Storm… of Guilt and Shame

2018-02-02T09:07:02-06:00 February 2nd, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYERO God,There are days I think I am a pretty good guy. I think, “well, compared to lots of people, I am doing ok.” I am conventionally nice, so perhaps I don’t need any really significant forgiveness. But then, when I put aside my pretense, I know better. Please forgive me. Like the tax collector in the temple, my cry is “Lord, have mercy on me, a sinner.” There are things I have done. Things I have said. Things I haven’t done. When I take a good honest look at my heart and life, I really am ashamed. When people say critical things about [...]

26 01, 2018

Illness, by Patrick S. Tennant, Ph.D., LMFT-Associate

2018-01-26T08:42:09-06:00 January 26th, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

Illness is, almost without exception, a struggle that is common to all of us. Whether chronic or acute, through personal experience or that of a loved one, temporary or terminal, it is challenging to imagine any life completely untouched by illness. And that feature of this struggle makes another feature of it so confounding: illness can often be utterly isolating. It can feel as though it separates a person from family, friends, and even themselves. It can lead to scary, existential questions, messy legal fights, and complicated logistical realities that challenge even strong family units. Through all of this, [...]

26 01, 2018

Getting through the storm… of illness

2018-01-26T08:35:53-06:00 January 26th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYERO God of love, Great Physician, healer of all, compassionate one…I know so many people who are sick. Some with ever-present pain. Some who are dying. Some with chronic illnesses. Some who live each day with mental illness. Some who just suffer as their bodies fight the periodic afflictions of human life. We are bold to pray for healing for all of your beloved children. When you walked among us as a human being, you showed us your desire for healing. You brought life again to the daughter of the religious leader, but stopped along the way to cure the woman who had [...]

19 01, 2018

Grief, by Janet Crow, MA, LPC

2018-01-19T09:03:06-06:00 January 19th, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

Grief is something everyone experiences at some point. Having tools to grieve and mourn allows us to focus on the experience of the loss, find new courage and hope to survive the pain, and move forward in time. Loss thrusts upon us disappointments we did not choose, but also opportunities we did not imagine. Loss challenges our basic assumption about ourselves and our future while at the same time, loss forces us to re-structure our lives. It is important to realize losses can be more than death of a loved one and include: loss of people you love, pets, [...]

19 01, 2018

Getting Through The Storm… of Grief

2018-01-19T08:59:12-06:00 January 19th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYERO God,Without letting go of some things, we can’t take hold of anything else. There is no growth without change. There is no change without loss. There is no loss without grief. There is no grief without pain. And the pain is real. Just because our grief is inevitable doesn’t mean it hurts less.Yes, we believe there is heaven ahead. But still it hurts. Yes, we believe that one day there will be no more tears. But there are tears now.In your Scripture, you promise to bind up the broken-hearted. You promise to comfort those who mourn. Jesus wept for his friends who were grieving. God, I [...]