2 02, 2018

Guilt and Shame by Audrey Omenson, M.A., LPC-S Clinical Director NFCC

2018-02-02T09:39:20-06:00February 2nd, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

Guilt and shame are two incredibly powerful emotions. Often used interchangeably, guilt is specific to regret regarding an action or decision. However, in the words of Brené Brown, shame is “an intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.”  Guilt is about something we’ve done; shame is about who we are. Sometimes, these emotions arise due to an action, decision or belief of our own. Other times, these emotions come up based on the words or actions of those around us. An important practice with these emotions is separating the [...]

2 02, 2018

Getting Through The Storm… of Guilt and Shame

2018-02-02T09:07:02-06:00February 2nd, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYERO God,There are days I think I am a pretty good guy. I think, “well, compared to lots of people, I am doing ok.” I am conventionally nice, so perhaps I don’t need any really significant forgiveness. But then, when I put aside my pretense, I know better. Please forgive me. Like the tax collector in the temple, my cry is “Lord, have mercy on me, a sinner.” There are things I have done. Things I have said. Things I haven’t done. When I take a good honest look at my heart and life, I really am ashamed. When people say critical things about [...]

26 01, 2018

Illness, by Patrick S. Tennant, Ph.D., LMFT-Associate

2018-01-26T08:42:09-06:00January 26th, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

Illness is, almost without exception, a struggle that is common to all of us. Whether chronic or acute, through personal experience or that of a loved one, temporary or terminal, it is challenging to imagine any life completely untouched by illness. And that feature of this struggle makes another feature of it so confounding: illness can often be utterly isolating. It can feel as though it separates a person from family, friends, and even themselves. It can lead to scary, existential questions, messy legal fights, and complicated logistical realities that challenge even strong family units. Through all of this, [...]

26 01, 2018

Getting through the storm… of illness

2018-01-26T08:35:53-06:00January 26th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYERO God of love, Great Physician, healer of all, compassionate one…I know so many people who are sick. Some with ever-present pain. Some who are dying. Some with chronic illnesses. Some who live each day with mental illness. Some who just suffer as their bodies fight the periodic afflictions of human life. We are bold to pray for healing for all of your beloved children. When you walked among us as a human being, you showed us your desire for healing. You brought life again to the daughter of the religious leader, but stopped along the way to cure the woman who had [...]

19 01, 2018

Grief, by Janet Crow, MA, LPC

2018-01-19T09:03:06-06:00January 19th, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

Grief is something everyone experiences at some point. Having tools to grieve and mourn allows us to focus on the experience of the loss, find new courage and hope to survive the pain, and move forward in time. Loss thrusts upon us disappointments we did not choose, but also opportunities we did not imagine. Loss challenges our basic assumption about ourselves and our future while at the same time, loss forces us to re-structure our lives. It is important to realize losses can be more than death of a loved one and include: loss of people you love, pets, [...]

19 01, 2018

Getting Through The Storm… of Grief

2018-01-19T08:59:12-06:00January 19th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYERO God,Without letting go of some things, we can’t take hold of anything else. There is no growth without change. There is no change without loss. There is no loss without grief. There is no grief without pain. And the pain is real. Just because our grief is inevitable doesn’t mean it hurts less.Yes, we believe there is heaven ahead. But still it hurts. Yes, we believe that one day there will be no more tears. But there are tears now.In your Scripture, you promise to bind up the broken-hearted. You promise to comfort those who mourn. Jesus wept for his friends who were grieving. God, I [...]

12 01, 2018

Betrayal, by Heather Timmis, MA, LMFT

2018-01-12T09:43:15-06:00January 12th, 2018|All blogs, We Tell Our Stories|0 Comments

Betrayal, at its core, is a breach of trust in a valued relationship. This can happen in many ways and it can hurt on any number of levels. After a discovery of a betrayal, various feelings rise to the surface. The first is often anger, but anger tends to be a blanket emotion covering other feelings such as hurt, fear, frustration, confusion, sadness, disappointment, or resentment. However, the feeling of betrayal can manifest itself in ways outside of thoughts and feelings via physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach pain, indigestion, and other aches. Therefore, it is imperative to engage [...]

12 01, 2018

Getting through the storm… of betrayal

2018-01-12T09:40:33-06:00January 12th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYERO God,To be betrayed, God. It shakes up one’s whole sense of trust in the world, makes one question assumptions and beliefs about everything around. So many folks feel that people they once trusted betrayed them. Spouses. Business partners. Friends. Children. Parents… even pastors can betray us. The pain and anger are overwhelming. The consequences can be so harmful to families and neighborhoods, relationships of all sorts. How do we deal with it, God? You tell us we are to “turn the other cheek.” Do those who betray us just get off scot-free? That doesn’t seem right at all! But it also doesn’t seem right to pray [...]

7 01, 2018

The Examen, from St. Ignatius of Loyola, (as interpreted by Father James Martin)

2018-01-08T13:37:21-06:00January 7th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

Presence: Remember that you’re in the presence of God in a special way when you pray. Ask God for help in prayer.Gratitude: Recall two or three things that happened today for which you are especially grateful. Savor them. Then thank God for these gifts.Review: Review you day from start to finish, noticing where you experienced God’s presence. Notice everything from large to small: from an enjoyable interaction with a friend to the feel of the sun on your face. When did you love? When were you loved?Sorrow: You may have sinned today or done something you regret. Express your sorrow [...]

5 01, 2018

Getting to the root of it…

2018-01-08T13:34:52-06:00January 5th, 2018|All blogs, Inside-Out with Dr. Tom Pace|0 Comments

A PERSONAL PRAYER O God, Sometimes, I feel like I am addressing the symptoms rather than the illness. Sometimes, I feel like I am changing the clothes I am wearing rather than improving the health of the soul. I worry about the fruit of my life – what impact am I making? How can I treat people better? How can I listen more? How can I address the issues I am avoiding? How can I be happier, healthier, better? But all of these outward behaviors are simply outgrowths of something far more central, something at the core of who [...]